Elevating Life By Elevating the Relationship With Food & Body // Kendra Maruyama

Elevating Life By Elevating the Relationship With Food & Body // Kendra Maruyama

As a mother to a daughter and a female myself, I find the thoughts around body image and food ever present in my mind. Whether it is speaking to my daughter about “healthy choices”, discussing nutritional value of specific products with a friend or thinking about exercising as a way to receive extra endorphins… Today I am honored and excited to welcome Kendra Maruyama as a special guest to my blog… A Certified Coach and Eating Disorder Recovery Mentor, a mother and a wife. I found myself chatting with Kendra in a hallway of a fitness club (that we both attend) about food, nutrition and exercise a lot. I had asked Kendra if I could interview her for my blog as an attempt to share her service, wisdom and kindness. She kindly agreed. And now, I am happy to share with you Kendra’s secrets about life-work balance, about her caring service and what inspires her everyday.

Tell me Kendra a little about yourself, your background, your family.
I was born and raised in San Diego. I am one of three girls. My parents are both professionals (semi-retired now). As a family we enjoyed music, the outdoors, camping, art, water-skiing, and our horses. Throughout my childhood we participated in equine-centered activities and competition. I represented my hometown as Rodeo Queen in 1991, and was a contender in the Miss Rodeo California competition in 1992. I was also a devoted musician (percussionist) and found great satisfaction in pursuing my passion for music. Today, I am married and a mom – two of the greatest joys of my life. I still play music, paint, and love being in nature. 

Please, tell our readers about your service.
I am a Certified Coach and Mentor. I work primarily with people navigating recovery from an eating disorder or other disordered relationship with food and body, including chronic dieters. I have a small private practice and also have the opportunity to connect with the larger community through volunteer work with the Eating Disorder Foundation, a non-profit based in Denver. Readers can learn more about my private practice at http://www.eatingdisorderrec.com/ . 

Why and how did you make decision to create such service?
In my late-teens and twenties I had an eating disorder. After several years of battling it, I was very fortunate to find and accept professional help and my path toward recovery began. I learned, however, that the recovery path is not a linear one. It took many years for me recreate a healthy relationship with food and with my body. The acute intervention that was required at the beginning of recovery was crucial. However, an extended, long-term support, like that of a mentor or coach, would have been of great utility for me in what I consider the “secondary phase” of recovery. For an individual that has had an eating disorder, the very act of eating and making choices around food/exercise is incredibly anxiety-provoking. What I learned in the process of my own recovery was that I  needed more than just behavior modification. I needed to re-imagine my relationship with  nourishment, heal the toxic nutritional beliefs/food phobias that I’d held, and learn to navigate cultural and media messages in a way that properly supported me. When I was in the process of shaping my business, I had this secondary phase of recovery in mind. 

How do you recommend we, mothers talk to our children (boys and girls ) about food and body image in order to guide the on the right path and not create any problems even though unintentionally?
This is a wonderful question, thank you! Children learn from their environment. We can help to shape healthy body image and food relationships by modeling healthy, balanced behavior and language. When parents body-shame themselves, or body-shame others, their children learn body-shame and, perhaps, a belief system that certain bodies are acceptable (lovable) and others are not. Celebrate with your child the amazing abilities of their body – to heal a cut, to restore health after having the flu, to stretch and run and throw a ball. Practice a lifestyle of balanced nutrition and movement. Allow mealtime to be pleasurable. Have kid-approved, parent-approved, delicious, nutrient-dense food options available. Be mindful not to moralize food – when we label foods (or physicality) as either “good” or “bad”, we risk creating shame in our children. (e.g. “I enjoy this sweet treat, but sweets are bad for me, so I am bad for wanting it”.) Shame around food can contribute to disordered behavior. “Good” and “bad” can be substituted with language like “more nutrient dense” or “less nutrient dense” to help your child understand nutritional guidelines and moderation. When helping our children develop healthy practices for life, I encourage balancing these 5 elements of health: Nutrition, Hydration, Sleep, Movement and Spirit. When we teach our kids to balance these elements, their bodies are properly supported. This helps to create a solid foundation for sustained health. 

Why do you believe such service should exist? Who would use or could benefit from your services?
Statistically, the recidivism rate for people with eating disorders is notably high. In my observation, a multi-strategy approach to creating support for people in recovery is important for accomplishing sustained recovery. My services are designed to benefit anyone wanting to elevate their relationship with food and body. My services are certainly not limited to only those who had an eating disorder. I also enjoy working with the general population around healthy body image and a variety of food challenges. 

What are the special programs/events that you provide (if any)?
I offer private sessions in person (for local clients) and by Skype (for distance clients). My services include personal counsel and support, but also pantry revision and meal planning. I offer body image workshops for larger groups. 

What is your work-kids-life balance formula?
Balance is difficult. In short, I prioritize family. I believe in self-care. For me, that means connecting with my family and the communities that I care deeply about on a daily basis. Nutrition, proper sleep hygiene and healthy movement are pillars of wellness for me. I regularly revisit the intention of balance. It seems to be a moving target.
 
What is so rewarding about your business to you?
The foundation of my work is, first and foremost, being an immaculate listener. This requires a particular skill, of course, but I also invite exploration and experimentation. Oftentimes, I’m doing little more than facilitating a space for people to reveal their own wisdom to themselves. In life, we can lose track our internal teachers; we disengage from our intuition. My work is hardly rote and I try to approach each client with fresh eyes and curiosity. The path of recovery is, I find, unique to the individual. I love seeing the breakthroughs. 

What moves you? What inspires you every day?
I’m inspired by art and creativity. I’m inspired by kindness. I love to learn. I’m inspired by the philosophy that we evolve and are in motion; we’re in the process of becoming the highest expression of ourselves. We’re never fully developed.  There is space and opportunity for change when we choose it.

Thank you Kendra for sharing with us your caring service and your wisdom. For all those who would like to reach out to Kendra, she welcomes your contact via email eatingdisorderrec@gmail.com.

 Newborn baby & children photographer – Marina Lower, specializes in  luxury newborn baby photography and  infant baby portraits through the first year of baby’s life, including children & kids portraits with their families. Creates stylish Mother & Child portraits of those beautiful memories.  Travels for in home or on location portrait sessions to Cherry Hills Village, Greenwood Village, Boulder, Vail, and Breckenridge. Visit www.MarinaPhotoArt.com for more info and to view online photo portfolio.

Russian Immersion Preschool and Child Care “Veseliy Uley” (“Happy Beehive” )

Russian Immersion Preschool and Child Care “Veseliy Uley” (“Happy Beehive” )

I am so excited to introduce and welcome to my blog a special guest –  Elena Raybun, a mother, an educator and a business owner among other important titles :)

Elena, tell me a little about yourself, your background, your family.
I immigrated to the US back in 1999 from Russia. When I got married and had my first child, my husband and I agreed that raising her bilingual was a gift we could offer her. I worked part-time and spoke exclusively Russian to my daughter the entire time. Unfortunately, at the age of 3 my daughter understood Russian perceptively but did not speak Russian in return. My husband and I were confused and worried. After all, it was important to us that she spoke Russian as a part of our heritage and we thought it could give her an advantage in her professional future. After research, I learned that what our daughter needed was an immersion language environment, preferably filled with her own peers. Russian immersion

Please, tell the readers about your service.
In 2011 when my daughter was just 3 years old I decided to open my own bilingual child care as no such service was available anywhere in the north Denver area. We originally opened the business with only 6 available spots for children ages 0-5 but those spots quickly got filled and a year later we expanded to accommodate 12 children. Today we operate at full capacity and maintain a steady waiting list for children who would like to learn Russian.
Children in our care enjoy days filled with various play-based activities such as story time, puppet shows, circle time, etc. The majority of our day (about 95% ) is spent speaking, reading, playing and singing in Russian, which makes it a true language immersion. All of out teachers are native speakers of Russian and they teach children not only the language but also the culture through food, celebrations of Russian holidays, songs, games and so on.

Why do you believe moms should use such service?
Raising children bilingual is not just the latest trend in Early Childhood Education, it is truly beneficial for the child’s overall development. Being immersed in 2 languages from birth is something very commonly practiced in most European countries and it is slowly catching up here in the US. Early language immersion helps children obtain a second language at an age when their speech apparatus is still developing, which allows a child to speak a foreign language accent-free later in life. Research shows that bilingual children develop a better understanding of an object regardless of the language used and it is easier for them to acquire additional languages throughout life. Exposure to a new culture teaches them acceptance and appreciation of diversity.

Why choose your service over the one down the street?
My business is very unique. We offer services not offered anywhere else in the north Denver or Boulder area. Additionally, in the past 3.5 years that we have been in existence, we have created an excellent reputation of high quality child care and preschool services. You can find parent reviews on our web-site at www.russiansadik.com

Why would you yourself choose to use “Veseliy Ulei”?
We offer comfortable in-home atmosphere, safe and stimulating environment for children, excellent home cooked meals, experienced care providers with years of child care experience, and research-based approach to bilingual education in early childhood.

What are the special programs/events that you provide (if any)?
Our clients (our children) enjoy weekly music and art classes taught by highly experienced specialized Russian-speaking teachers. These lessons are geared not only at language development and language acquisition but also at the overall focus on the “whole child”: development of gross and fine motor skills, artistic and imaginative play, eye-hand coordination, emergent reading and writing, social skills and so on.

What is your work-kids-life balance formula?
Being self-employed comes at a price. However, in the past 3.5 years of operating my bilingual child care and preschool I think I organized my life and my work in such a way that work happens primarily during business hours (7:30am-5:30pm, Monday-Friday) and the rest of the time I am devoted to my family.

What is so rewarding about your business to you?
The most rewarding part of my job is the feeling I get when I see how much my students have learned in the time they spent at my child care and preschool. We get compliments from parents who see their child’s progress not just in their Russian language acquisition but also in their child’s academics, their Kindegarten readiness and overall development. We also receive special words of gratitude from the Kindergarten teachers who teach our “graduates” as they note the children’s advancements in academics and social/emotional development in comparison to children who did not attend out preschool.

Want to learn more?  Please check out the website, call or stop by and see yourself what an amazing place this truly is :)
Elena Raybun
“Veseliy Uley” Russian Preschool and Child Care
303-280-1880
www.russiansadik.com

Thank you, Elena for sharing with us! And thank you for providing such a unique opportunity to young children in Denver and Boulder area of Colorado!

Newborn baby & children photographer – Marina Lower, specializes in luxury newborn baby photography and infant baby portraits through the first year of baby’s life, including children & kids portraits with their families. Creates stylish Mother & Child portraits of those beautiful memories. Travels for in home or on location portrait sessions to Cherry Hills Village, Greenwood Village, Boulder, Vail, and Breckenridge. Visit www.MarinaPhotoArt.com for more info and to view online photo portfolio.

Children Photography… Newborn Photography… Human connection is fascinating to capture.

Children Photography… Newborn Photography… human connection is fascinating to capture… and this quote inspires me! I thought I would share…

“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty even when it’s not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”
— Oriah Mountain Dreamer

 

Newborn baby & children photographer – Marina Lower, specializes in  luxury newborn baby photography and  infant baby portraits through the first year of baby’s life, including children & kids portraits with their families. Creates stylish Mother & Child portraits of those beautiful memories.  Travels for in home or on location portrait sessions to Cherry Hills Village, Greenwood Village, Boulder, Vail, and Breckenridge. Visit www.MarinaPhotoArt.com for more info and to view online photo portfolio.